People Pleasers vs. Fixers

My sister is a people pleaser. I have never been a people pleaser. I've always been sadly selfish and not easily guilted into things. However, there is a not-so-distance cousin of the PP that I'd like to introduce to you:

The Fixer.

A Fixer is different from a PP. A people pleaser tries to please everyone at once. They do what they're asked, and spread themselves too thin. Fixers are the Type A version of that.

Fixers are out to, well, fix everything. They feel like they should be able to do everything themselves, and not only solve their own problems, but yours as well. While people pleasers feel unhappy when the people around them are irritated, Fixers just get frustrated--more often than not at themselves.

I'm a Fixer. I like to play supergirl. I'm mostly good at it, or at least I used to be. Not as much anymore.

Now, this is usually the point where I would turn this post around and tell you that being a PP or a Fixer is not the way to go. I would normally tell you that it's just exhausting and unrealistic. You can't please everyone. A smart leader doesn't please everyone, they just decide who they need to please. You also can't fix everything. You can only change yourself, not other people, and some things will just plain have to wait for God's timing.

This is usually where I'd say that, but I'm too ticked off that I can't Fix everything to turn this into a lesson.

Oh, wait...

P.S. Please pray for Cavender's ankle. It's sprained, or maybe broken.

Advice Day

"Honesty can be a good thing, but so can discretion." ~Your very own Kendrabelle

Be nice. Being honest can be a great personality trait, but not when you use it as an excuse to blurt out your hurtful thoughts.

That's all I have time to say for now, I'm writing. LOL, sort of. I ended up not really liking what I had going for the Write-a-Thon, so I've started something else...and I only have 496 words so far :-|

*headdesk* Ergh.

Opposites

My sister Lizzy and I are complete opposites. Everything about us is different and opposite. We still get along (mostly, haha), but we're completely different.

Me:
I have brown hair and blue-green eyes.
My favorite color is green, and I hate purple.
If I had one wish, it'd be for an older brother.
I like soup because I don't like to eat, and I'm good in every subject but math and science.
I'd rather be hot than cold, and summer is my season.
I'd rather read and write than just about anything, but if I'm watching a movie it'll be action-packed and full of suspense and clever dialogue.
When it comes to cleaning, I'm a big believer in "Let's don't and say we did".
My room is organized chaos: it's messy, but I know EXACTLY where everything is.
I'm sort of OCD, though, and if something isn't symmetrical, it irritates me to no end.
I'm terrible about procrastinating.
I'm persuasive and mischievous and enjoy getting around the rules.
If a rule is stupid, I will break it just to bother you.
You can yell at me all day, I don't mind, and the whole guilt-trip thing is lost on me.
Overall I'm a green-loving, persuasive, tom-boy-rebel who should have been born in Florida with an older brother.

Lizzy:
She has blue eyes and blonde hair, but darker eyebrows which she worries about all the time.
She loves blue and likes purple, and she likes to cook, too.
She likes to eat, but she's still skinny.
Where I would kill for an older brother, she'd like to have a little sister.
Reading and writing are basically the bane of her existence, and she works herself up every time she has to do either.
She hates being hot and would probably thrive in Alaska.
She's an absolute neat-freak and if something isn't SPOTLESS, she'll scrub it for half an hour (I wish I were kidding).
When relaxing she likes hanging out with the family and is a lover of chick-flicks.
She okay with word play if you explain it to her, but it's really not her thing.
She's very helpful and kind and easy to guilt-trip and if you yell at her she'll cry.
She's huge on rules, she'll follow them even if they make no sense. If the dentist tells her not to eat for two hours, she won't eat after it's been an hour and fifty-minutes seconds. She might even wait an EXTRA hour just to be on the safe side.
Overall she's a very sweet and fun neat-freak who believes in following the letter AND the spirit of the law.

And there you have it.
Opposite. Complete opposites.

I'm Evil where she's Good.
She's Clean where I'm Messy.
I'm Chill where she's Freaking Out.
She's Helpful where I'm Clueless.

Opposites, but sisters, and that's enough the same for me. I love her no matter how she is <3

~Kendra

Another One (But I promise I've been writing, too)

Just for the heck of it...*sigh* Yes, I took another quiz...

"Funny/Clown Personality Type:

You relate to people with laughter. When you make friends, you crack a joke, if you’re feeling insecure, you make fun of yourself before anyone else does, and when your date is laughing non-stop, you feel like you’ve made a good impression. You like having an audience. Humor is your greatest and most prominent gift."

Okay, cool! I like to laugh. Yep. This is all pretty much true, although I've never actually been on a date...

Okay, So, I Was Bored...

I loooooove quizes. So, when I'm bored and don't feel like writing, what do you think I do? Yup. QUIZES!! :) Here's a personality one I took. I've taken other Jung Typology tests that were more thorough, though, and gotten a different result than the one I got this time. Oh well. Here's what I am (I'll put my comments in bold, italic letters:))
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You Are An ENTP:

The Visionary kind of

You are charming, outgoing, friendly. You make a good first impression.
Okay. Lol, I'll take a compliment :) You possess good negotiating skills and can convince anyone of anything. Unfortunately, yeah. Unfortunately because sometimes I can't resist playing practical jokes on people where I convince them of something reeeally funny lol! Happy to be the center of attention, you love to tell stories and show off. Ouch, about the showing off, lol! You're very clever, but you are not disciplined enough to do well in structured environments. Ugh, maybe so...

In love, you see everything as a grand adventure. Okay. You enjoy taking risks for love. Yes. And if things don't work out, you're usually not too much worse for the wear! Uhhh, maybe not so much if I was really in love...

You would make a great entrepreneur, marketing executive, or actor. Maaaaaaybe, but what I really want to do is be a lawyer!! At work, you need a lot of freedom to pursue your own path and vision. True. At least I do in school, lol!

How you see yourself: Analytical, creative, and peaceful. Analytical and creative, yes. Peaceful, NO.

When other people don't get you, they see you as: Detached, wishy-washy, and superficial. Not at all. When people don't get me, they usually see me as bossy, superficial, and dramatic. NEVER wishy-washy. I'm a ver set-in-stone kind of person.

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Well, there you have it! More about me than you ever wanted to know :) If you want to take a similar quiz that's long-ish, but very accurate, go here: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp